How does a family with triplets save money? Is it even possible? Well, yes and no.
I often push to save money until it hurts. Making choices that are better for the whole family and a benefit to our bottom line is usually a win-win situation, but there are some lessons that have been learned the hard way. I should have known the first time I cut my son’s hair that I was in way over my head (and his), but instead I went on to trim Olivia’s and Rebecca’s bangs before realizing that paying for three professional haircuts is money well spent.
College savings? No. Right now we are worrying about keeping the children fed, clothed and warm and keeping enough gas in the van to get to their appointments so that they stay healthy. The thought of the kids sacrificing now in order to give them a chance at college or a trade education seems backward. We need to give them the best footing now so that they can learn and grow properly before we concern ourselves with a special savings account.
Shopping for food and other necessities is best done carefully and thoughtfully. Pulling up with a side of beef and no freezer space makes no sense, even if the beef is three cents per pound. Finding a sale on laundry soap is great unless the soap is scented and creates giant eczema patches on three people. A great deal on peanut butter is wonderful for most families, but for my family, it would be a waste because of my daughter’s severe nut allergy.
The grocery stores that double coupons are my best friends. Some stores even triple the coupons; I keep my ears open for the whispers of such urban legends. I study the sales fliers and my coupons with the intensity of one who studies ancient hieroglyphics. When the children were learning to speak, their first words were “mama,” “dada” and “coupon.” It was adorable.
I buy many items in bulk. I have been known to drive two hours to load the minivan down with such extreme savings that the drive made sense and cents. If there is a limit on an item I am shopping for, I go with a team. Or I will go through the check-out multiple times. I leave the kids at home, bring the savings card, the coupons and a list.
I am a devout list maker. All items to be purchased or looked for are written down under the store name with the price, quantity and limits. I disagree with sticking strictly to the list because occasionally I have found true gems or items we use on clearance that save me in the long run.
To make sure that I am actually saving the money, I will check the receipts and packing slips very carefully to make sure all discounts, coupons or promotional codes have been applied. If they don’t add up, it can often be solved with a soft voice and a smile. I will also freely admit when I am in the wrong.
My husband works, and I am in charge of making that money goes as far as it can and then some. The only new clothing items my crew gets are underpants, undershirts and socks. We love hand-me-downs. We love consignment sales and stores. Birthday or holiday gifts are often things that the children need.
Saving money is a full-time job. Five years and seven months ago, we learned that we were expecting three miracles, and we knew spending money was never going to be the same. I, for one, am thrilled it hasn’t been the same.
Jennifer Steuer is an Albany mom, whose busy household includes her husband, Harlan, and 5-year-old triplets Olivia, Benjamin and Rebecca. The one thing she misses most about pre-triplet days is sleep.